I never thought I would get cancer

Of course I didn’t, who does.

But now it is just a part of my life. Only for a short time, I hope, I desperately hope it doesn’t come back again. But here we are.

But it’s ok, I don’t really mind much. Seriously. Everyone else seems to mind a lot more than I do. I’m not sad, angry, upset. There’s no reason to feel these sorts of things. Tricky things happen in life and you take them on, tackle them and come out the other side stronger. I don’t see why this is any different.

I honestly don’t feel like my life is any worse off than it was before this. Is that a strange thing to say? Sure, I’m going to a few less gigs at the moment, and I’m spending my money on a few less spontaneous holidays (my bank account is grateful). I’m also a lot more flaky with committing to social events. But I’m still going out to bars, I’m still hanging out with my friends, my boyfriend, going out for brunch, coffee, going to parties, seeing bands, blogging…

I’m only going to work for about 1ish weeks out of every 5… I guess that’s quite a change. That’s definitely the biggest thing that’s different in my life. But I’m still in touch and I work when I can. Everyone else I’ve spoken to going through chemo is always amazed that I’m working at all. They say they’re not able to. Um… well… I get one good week, so I’m going to make it as normal as possible.

Anyway, I’m also reading a lot more, and I’m making new friends, and having brand new experiences and adventures that I never would have had… I’m not saying I’m glad it’s all happened obviously! But I don’t have any negative thoughts towards it.

Although what IS annoying is that I have this huge lump on my face for a year. I think that’s probably the worst part. But you know… even with that I see more positives than negatives (God, I’m annoying, aren’t I!) I’ve seen patients with lower jaw sarcomas that are huge. The whole side of their face is swollen, and often sarcoma people are almost unrecognisable pre to post surgery. Poor, poor things. Mine isn’t going to be that much of a difference. I mean it’s always there, and you can’t not notice it. But I’m getting really good at angles for selfies, and often if people don’t know it’s there then they don’t realise. I’m also learning to smirk instead of smile, hides it a bit.

I am the person in the ward sitting there smiling while I’m getting my chemo. I’m the person who’s excited to go into the ward each day and see everyone. I’m the person who’s excited about getting kitted up with my new backpack of chemo to head off to the hotel. I’m the person thinking it’s a great fun adventure when the fire alarm goes off in the hotel and we all have to traipse down 5 flights of stairs (I got to catch up with all my friends out on the street!)

Yes, I’m the person who only has positive things to find when people are complaining. Who, even when something bad is happening to me, manages to only find something good from it. I look at myself sometimes and roll my eyes. I’m sure I’m annoying. Oh well! I don’t really think there’s any other way worth being.

What was the song? Always look on the bright side of life.

Something like that. Life is too short to not enjoy it!

12 thoughts on “I never thought I would get cancer

  1. Teresa Cooper

    Hi doll,

    You are such an inspiration. Yes you are annoying, but only because I, and I am sure lots of others, want to be as positive as you are about life, whatever it throws at you. Another good thing that will come out of this is that you have inspired people to take life by the horns and shake the arse out of it. As they say, if life hands you lemons make lemonade out of them and add a good glug of gin. Your are my new guru. Much love & squeezes, Mallorca awaits you.

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    1. You are far too kind!!!
      I would never think of myself as inspirational but I do hope I can inspire some people to not get too bogged down about the trickier things that happen to them, and just get on and push forward and enjoy whatever they can!
      Gin is definitely my medicine!!!
      Can’t wait to come visit!!! I’m going to be in need of that Spanish sun once this is all over!! xxx

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  2. Kathy

    Hi jen
    You’re not annoying
    Someone to be admired xxx
    You are so strong brave and positive you are amazing xxxx you should be so proud of yourself.
    All our love always xxxxxxx

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  3. Ashlea Ross

    “I am the person in the ward sitting there smiling while I’m getting my chemo.” Best line I’ve ever read in any book, blog or article. You’re a legend.

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  4. Jenny van Rinsum

    Dear Jen, I am quite a shock to find out all what is happening to you! The way you handle it is beyond just being strong. I admire this so much. I know how hard it is as my husband had cancer 7 years ago but recovered completely. So will you!!! All the strength, big hugs and kisses from me, Jenny.

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    1. Hi Jenny, so nice to hear from you!!!
      Great to hear about your husband – not that he had to deal with cancer obviously, but that he is entirely recovered. It’s funny how many people you come across that have had cancer or had someone very close to them who has – it touches us all eventually, unfortunately!
      But we fight it and move on and come out the other side even stronger, I’m sure!
      So glad you found the blog, keep in touch!!
      Jen

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